Giving is about enablement

By | December 1, 2014

+Visnja Zeljeznjak makes a very strong point in her post (linked): true presents aren't things – not even things that someone could use, or food that someone not-so-well-off could consume. It's about enablement. It's about using your creative prowess to enable someone else to succeed – reflected strongly in her gift examples:

– A moment of togetherness.
– A bundle of knowledge.
– A kind conversation.
– A product that solves human problems.
– A service that makes people smile and thrive.

And as I sit there, thinking about what to give to a dear friend of mine who barely scrapes by on social assistance, I think of how she reacts to presents as well: a reaction that very closely illustrates what Visnja is saying. My friend is quite put off by gifts of money, food, etc. But give her a home-made, educational toy for her kids (she is planning to be an educator when her newest child is a bit older), give her information about natural preventative medicine (one of her personal interests), or something else that enables and empowers her and she'll be thrilled beyond imagination – the value of such gifts have a long-lasting impact, not just on her but also on those around her, and can never be depleted but only multiply.

At the risk of coming across as self-promotional, I'll link here two of my contributions this season, if you're looking for something for young children: after seeing how my kindergarten has taught my kids how to stop asking questions and start accepting everything the teacher says as fact, I think it's time to take action and start developing those skills at home instead, as those are skills that the education system diminishes, but are highly valued and required by pretty much every well-paying job today.

– A (completely free) 'Question Game' designed to reinforce creative thinking and problem solving:
– A book with a year's worth of DIY kid's experiments, designed to encourage open exploration and to challenge common assumptions:

Giving isn't about material wealth transfer. True giving about enablement. Let's enable each other every day!

Originally shared by +Visnja Zeljeznjak

Imagine a world based on giving, rather than on taking. Scarcity is a product manufactured by man's decision to base his civilization on taking rather than on giving. (source:

Scarcity is manufactured. Scarcity is artificial. Can you believe this?

Nature is abundant. Human-made creations are scarce. It is a choice we made, and continue to make every day.

And can you believe that the only, only way to reverse that reality is to stop being part of it, to ignore it, and live in your own reality distortion field, where giving is the default?

It all starts with one single human. Enter my reality distortion field.

What would your world of giving look like? What would be different?

Maybe you would look to give first and take second.
Maybe you would be grateful for the abundance you already have.
Maybe you would smile at people more.
Maybe you would not look at other people as your competitors.
Maybe you would donate more to the needy, without expecting rewards.
Maybe you would be less cynical for just one day.
Maybe you would start noticing the abundance of beauty in this world.

Today is December the 1st 2014. It's a month where we're accustomed to giving to others. How about for a change, we give more of everything to those who really need it?

Your mom probably does not need another Christmas present. She doesn't need stuff. Think about what she needs more.

Your partner does not need you to go to the mall and buy her/him a present. There could be something else he/she needs from you more.

Stuff, stuff, stuff. We don't need more stuff. Why not give the most precious asset a human has: time? Convert that time into energy that is useful to others?

Create something:
A moment of togetherness.
A bundle of knowledge.
A kind conversation.
A product that solves human problems.
A service that makes people smile and thrive.

What does your world of giving look like?

One thought on “Giving is about enablement

  1. Charles L. Perkins

    People would value themselves, because they learn from the service to value themselves, their multifaceted talented useful selves.

    Self-love in the name of arming oneself in the ever-widening battle to spread love wider is no crime but an imperative. First be, then do.


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